The development of male techniques and female techniques in a relationship are vital to ensuring that the quality of your sex life is maintained, or even improved. It’s all too easy to let it go stale without doing anything about it, but it’s really not that difficult.

How to please a woman or how to please a man are topics that we could provide an almost endless list for. Here’s just a few tips to get you started.

Tip Number 1

Lovemaking secrets do not have to be that complicated. Never underestimate the element of surprise. Sometimes all it takes to put a woman (or man!) in the mood is just coming up behind them unexpectedly and wrapping your arms around them. Nuzzle her neck and nibble her earlobe. Ladies, if he is sitting on the couch watching TV, try running your hand up his thigh. Believe me, the television will all of a sudden seem less interesting.

Lovemaking Tip #2

Often the act of making love can seem repetitive because of the location. Do you find that it is always in your bed? There’s nothing wrong with that of course, but in order to inject something new into the act of lovemaking, purely by having sex in a different place will make it feel more exciting. Your living room, for example (ensuring curtains are closed of course!) is a great place to make love because you will normally associate it with more mundane activity. Believe me, you won’t look at that couch in the same way again.

Lovemaking Tip #3

Both men and women like to be appreciated. Nothing turns a woman on like her man telling her that he appreciates all she does around the house. Cooking, laundry, cleaning, taking care of the children. Women also need to know that their husbands find them beautiful. As they grow older, have children, and go through bodily changes, women become insecure in their appearance. They need to be made to feel attractive. Men in turn also need affirmation. They want to feel that their wife feels appreciation for their hard work. They also need to know that their wife still finds them sexy. Telling your man that you appreciate him will definitely win you points!

Lovemaking Tip #4

Think about the times when you most enjoyed your lovemaking. Was it late at night after you’ve forgotten to brush your teeth when you get into bed? Probably not. The mood of the occasion can make a big difference. Dim the lights rather than turning them off (or leaving them on at full brightness), have some background music playing, wear something sexy (works better for women than men). Even if you don’t feel confident, odds on that your partner will love it.

Probably the most important lovemaking secret is not a secret at all. It is plain and simple honesty. Many men and women do not tell their partner what they like because they are embarrassed. The surefire way to have explosive sex is to be honest with your partner. Tell them your likes and dislikes. None of us is a mind reader. Instead of making your partner feel inadequate for doing it wrong, tell them what they can do that is right. Female techniques or male techniques aside, this is one thing that we all have in common.

This will get you well on your way to having a thriving, satisfying sex life.