Language is a powerful thing. Although you may not know it, the words you use show others how you see the world.

In fact, some experts believe that we not only use language to talk about how we see our world, but also that language actually helps us make the world we live in.

In what way is this true?

Your subconscious mind actually tries to look at reality in a way consistent with the words you speak.

So with such a powerful tool on the tips of our tongues you can both shape the way others view the world by carefully choosing how and what you say.

Here’s how you do this.

You use covert hypnosis. You can actually cause a hypnotic induction by choosing the right words and tone of voice. I’m not speaking about a complete hypnosis session like you see in the movies. Rather you use the right hypnotic words and tones to talking straight to someone’s subconscious while having what appears to be just a regular conversation.

So you can subliminally influence how people act and think by planting certain hypnotic seeds in their mind during an otherwise normal conversation.

What to say to do this?

Reaching the subconscious mind is not as hard as you may think. One of the best hypnotists ever, Milton Erickson, developed a model for what I will call conversational hypnosis that has three basic steps. This is called the Milton Model. The three stages of the Milton Model are:

Stage 1.

look for word clues in someone language to detect how they view the world. Especially, words revealing their feelings and what they see and hear. Once you spot the pattern you can use the person’s own experiences to draw attention from the world outside, to their own inner world.

One way to do this is to ask questions like What was that like for you? or How do you feel about that?

This focusing inward allows them to understand how seeing the world the way they do makes them feel.

Stage 2.

This second stage of the Milton conversational hypnosis model is to distract the listener’s conscious mind. This is done by using complicated and unclear language.

Milton Erickson spoke using words sounding very similar, but with entirely different meanings. A few good examples are here/hear, write/right, wonder/wander and sale/sail.

He would also use double binds that left the mind only a desired set of options. For instance, he would say something like, I don’t know if you will fall into a trance now, or in five minutes.

The words he uses allow the subconscious only two alternatives: fall into a trance now or in a few minutes. This is also an example of an embedded command, fall asleep now or very soon.

Incorrectly using words, distracts and confuses the conscious brain and causes it to turn inward for help from the subconscious brain.

These are only a couple of the many Milton Model methods for distracting the mind. I don’t know if you will want to learn more about the Milton Model now, or later

Stage 3.

Once the mind has been distracted, the final step in the Milton Model is to access the subconscious minds resources.

There are a few methods of doing this. The simplest is to embed commands in your sentences, so they are not apparent to the conscious brain, but will be perceived by the subconscious brain.

These are a few examples:

–I’m not sure if you will do the dishes right now –You can do it, can’t you? –You will do this, didn’t you? (I know this doesn’t make sense to your conscious brain, but it makes plenty of sense to your subconscious brain)

You may be wondering, if I just say some confusing sentences to other people and use embedded commands, can i get them to do what I want them to?

Well, my answer to that is maybe.

The critical point about conversational hypnosis is that someone will only go along with your commands if they don’t try to make her break her values and genuine beliefs.

Although you can certainly speak to someone’s subconscious using Milton Model techniques, it will take quite a bit more than some conversational hypnosis to change her values.

With practice, you will greatly improve your ability to use conversational hypnosis to subliminally influence people around you